On this beautiful sunny Friday morning, I woke up grateful! For the things I went through in the past three years that helped me get to where I am at this very moment. I can honestly say that a big part of 2018 and 2019 was hard for me as I finally hit rock-bottom. But, as crazy as it sounds, when you hit rock-bottom, I find that quite liberating, because then you realize you have nothing else to lose… knowing you can’t go down further, is a good place to be in because there is still a chance for you to get back up and that’s when will comes into play. The power and will to be better are all on you. Nothing can get you out of that hole you put yourself into except you. Yes, there are resources, but it’s all from within. As you dug yourself in, you have the capacity and the capability of digging yourself out and that said process can be quite exhilarating if you do take the time to finally feel better and be better.
I was always on such high, thinking that I had my shit together; good pay, single, happy, carefree to do everything I wanted and more. Perfect life! Alas, then adulthood happened, and I realized, shit I am not as good at life as I thought I was. But when I hit the very bottom of what bottom was, I decided to move forward and it felt liberating and rejuvenating—as if I was re-born. Showing resilience in the face of adversity is what makes you successful. I truly believe that we are born with these instincts and it just takes practice and with will, impossible is nothing. You have the chance to shape your life as you wish and have brighter possibilities and opportunities. I also always believed that success doesn’t have to be a constant, high, uphill. Success is measured by accomplishments, achievements, and steps. Success is about being open to the idea and the very scary concept of failure.
To me, nothing in life is worthwhile without taking risks and risks involve failure. I know some people who have a deep, like very deep, fear of failure. Like my husband. He will go above and beyond to excel at everything and exhausts himself just so he doesn’t fail. I let him be, because I was like that and then I realized how exhausting that was, then I slowly changed. You end up missing out on life and in business, you have to expect failure, and this is why I needed to change my ways.
And this is why, today, I wanted to share with you this wonderful quote from George S. Patton: “Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom”. Sometimes, when you look at all these success stories, you wonder how they made it, is it luck or is it hard work? Then you read their stories and realize the inevitable happened; failure. To be successful is to rationalize your inactions and process them, accept them and turn them to your advantage. This is what I realized and try to apply it day in and day out. Never be hard on yourself and when the time comes, do pat yourself on the back. However small it may seem; every step forward is a success. And as Nelson Mandela said so eloquently: “There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of“.
Self-improvement people! Sel-improvement!!!
May this weekend bring you brightness, epiphanies, and clarities to make amazing opportunities happen!