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An ode to the women in my life!

In honors of women’s day (not that it matters, because women, men and children…and animals should be celebrated every day!), I wanted to take the time to thank all the great heroines in my life that push me daily to become a better human. I am forever grateful and thankful for having a bunch of amazingly brilliant women and I feel like this can never be replaced. I am a feminist yes, but I do believe that women and men have different levels of being and we cannot get to their level and they cannot get to ours. This is simply how we are made, but one thing I know for sure is that women are much stronger emotionally and can take up a beating (metaphorically speaking) and still go forward. We have the power to fight for what we want and make dreams happen.

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My mom, despite having a hard time fending for herself (especially with dad)…she was still able to fight for us, to make things happen for us and to teach us to push ourselves past our comfort zones (most of the time). She is and forever will be my hero because despite the hardships in her life, she still helped shape us into the brilliant women we are today (I can see my sister’s cynicisms shine through at this one). I feel like despite everything, we are inspiring with our perseverance to stay positive and kind despite today’s harsh and cruel world. And that’s where mom comes in, she always pushed us to stay kind to others no matter what happened because it was always about kindness instead of aggressiveness. Granted, we all grew into different characters with different perceptions of what life truly is, but at our core we are all the same. And so, to my wonderful gorgeous sisters, I can never put into words how much they mean to me…yes most of the time we want to kill each other but to kill for each other we would all the time. We are together through tick and thin. We are never shy to be honest and brutal with each other because that’s how we care. We care so much, it’s kinda sickening! Haha! At the end of the day, even though we all grew into a million different directions, our roots are together, and they are grounded. Miles apart, we are still connected by the heart…cheesy but super true.

But I guess womanhood and sisterhood doesn’t stop at family and friends are equally as valuable. I don’t have many friends, but my girlfriends are freaking insane. They are loud and crazy and a mouthful, but they are humble and beautiful both inside and out. I feel like even though we are in the age of women empowerment, there are still loads of female citizens that make sure to bring you down rather than lift you up and I have such a hard time connecting with women because of that. Not everyone is the same, I know, but I find it hard to find a small group of strong women that can tell you how it is. The best kind of friendships are fierce lady friendships. My sisters from other misters aggressively believe in me and they are there when I need them. Even though we are not constantly talking, we know we got each other’s backs. There is no competing, there is no comparing, there is no hating; just pure empowerment, empowerment at its finest.

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This is why I wanted to take the time of day to celebrate the women in my life, because they all have shaped me in ways they will never know. Each woman played a role in making me strong, in making me feminine and in making me a warrior and I in return want to teach my daughter to do the same; be a magical wild thing! So to the women in my life and to all the women out there (including myself), cheers to you for always fighting and for always making place for future generations. You’re all that and a pair of Louboutin’s ♥

 

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The 5 things I learned from my mom.

In lights of mother’s day…which was yesterday, I wanted to write a little blog about the things I learned from my mum growing up. I can safely say that my mum is my hero, I look up to her so much and I couldn’t be more blessed to have her in my life. Whenever anyone asks me who my idol is, I always say it’s my mum, as cheesy as it may sound, but it is super true. My mom raised five rascals on her own, well we weren’t really rascals, but sometimes (rarely) we gave her a hard time. My dad shipped us and dropped us in Canada when the Gulf war started and it was a little overwhelming for all of us. I was only 7 when we moved to Canada and it was so surreal for me. I was confused and quite honestly I felt abandoned by my dad. Long story short, we couldn’t get to higher education where we were because we were immigrants and my parents being both university graduates, they wanted to offer us the same opportunities as they had, so Canada was obviously was the fitting option. My dad said that it was only for a couple of months until things settled down back in the Gulf region, but a year passed and two and three until it has been over 30 years being there. So basically, my mum was stuck learning a new language, trying to provide for us by working full-time and raising us and helping us with school. My mum gave up a lot to get us where we are today. I am humbled and touched by how much she has given us and today I want to pay tribute to her and share what she has taught me.

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1-Being kind and humble

Amongst her friends and acquaintances, my mom is known for being overly kind. She often times puts herself before others. She always has that when slapped give the other cheek kind of attitude. We (my sister and I), for the longest time, followed in her footsteps and I wouldn’t have it otherwise. I know it sounds kindda petty, but I would rather be kind and taken advantage of than hurting anyone. Although, today I am more wise and try as much possible not to be naïvely kind (hard but doable). Being humble was super important for my mom, I wasn’t the most humble teen I must say, I had attitude problem and sometimes borderline selfish. My mom would always tell me to avoid looking up to the sky, because I would stumble onto something, then fall and hurt myself. She always told me that to be better than others; I must stay humble and kind and not be a show off. I had a hard time to adjust really, but she showed me balance. Kindness gives me peace of mind and helps me live life happier and better. My mom takes care of everyone, so much so that she forgets about herself. I feel like giving her millions and telling her I love you daily isn’t even enough for how much she has given us. I feel like being kind and being humble goes hand in hand and these both help you live a modest but very wonderful life.

2-Being strong

Through her attitude and her way of being, my mother was always the strongest woman I have known. She was a trooper, always battling and always running after what she wanted to be able to provide us with the best possible. She had a horrible job and was super underpaid, but she stuck by it, because she had to, then she ran to English school and then finished up with French school. During the winter times, when we didn’t have car, she would carry boxes of grocery over her shoulders to make sure there was food on the table for us to eat. Yes, perhaps she wasn’t all that present in our lives, but we knew that she did that all for us, so we didn’t complain that much. My mom, for as long as I remember, has had loads of hardship and many humiliating moments in her life, but despite it all, she always kept her head high. Yes, I have seen her cry many times, but I never took that as a sign of weakness, on the contrary for me that was strength, for her to battle through life and still wear her feelings on her sleeve, that to me is the epitome of bravery. I am quite like my mom actually, and I get it a lot but she truly is one of my best friends and I am proud to be compared to her (even in the slightest way possible).

3-Being charitable

Very much like kindness, this is the core of who my mom is. She makes sure to help others and give back to the community as much as possible. Doing charitable things and giving to those in need is big in our family, thanks to mom. Volunteering could be a part of it; she always pushed me and still pushes me to volunteer if I have a lot of free time on my hands. Put better use to your time, she always says. Donating, whether it is money or food, is a big part of the Muslim religion but sometimes, people don’t apply that in their daily lives. My mom, on the other hand, made sure to instil this in us from a young age and we make sure to donate as much as we can. It almost feels like you live a healthier, happier life in doing so.

4-Forgivness

Forgiving others, no matter how much they hurt you, is key to inner peace. I took that from my mom and some may say I am very naïve but I cannot explain the feeling of letting go, it’s truly magical. Yes I get hurt and get down and beat myself senseless, but forgiveness is much more important to me than revenge. My momma always says, what goes around comes around, so make sure to put good into the world. If someone hurts you, just believe than God is there to help you through and that others will get their punishment one way or another. Move on, let go and keep living life simply. Sometimes, I get sucked into this bitchy, revenge mode, but my heart stops me and the guilt build in. Balance is key and I still got yet to learn, but we always learn till the day we die.

5-Wildness and free-spiritedness

Although she would never admit it, my mom is super adventurous. She likes a little risk and a little danger. She lives on the edge sometimes which is super cool on her part. I remember her telling me stories of her childhood and teen years about some risks she took while following her guts and she is an impressive woman to say the least. She would never ever tell anyone that she likes risk but she’s a silent live it on the edge kinda woman which makes me fall in love with her even more. I would safely say that this is a side I got from mum; being wild and carefree. Although, nowadays, she’s always worried about us and the future even though we’re all settled and married and go about our own lives. She secretly is the type of woman that cannot be tamed. She accommodates, yes, she compromises, but deep down I know that the wild will forever be in her. She always up to trying new things even though they’re scary! And she’s always interested in visiting new places and traveling and meeting new people. Way to go mom!

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Even though this post does her no justice, my mom is the woman I strive to be when I grow older….a little less stressed though, but at the end of the day, she’s given us more than we can ask for and for that I am forever grateful. God has blessed us in more ways than we think, because no amount of money can ever get us the love that we got from her! So for that mom, happy mother’s day, today, tomorrow and forever!!! You are my hero! Heaven truly does lie under her feet!

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To all the moms out there working hard, struggling to make ends meet…keep killing it! You’re doing great xxx