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How friendships change with age.

A few days ago, I was talking to my sister about this mutual acquaintance we have and how she’s constantly telling her (or me) that we’re in a bad mood, grumpy or pissed off (whenever we were quiet). Sometimes, and don’t get me wrong, I feel like people force themselves into your lives and it just isn’t right. I am a very introverted person and make lots of effort to be socially active and I try not to be awkward about it. It’s hard as it is and I do admit that I always come off as a queen B, but those who know me, know that I am so not like that. Takes time for people to get in the “circle of trust”. I am content just being quiet and invisible in my corner. I know, how ironic that is, seeing that I do talks and fashion events. But, it honestly gets me frustrated….it’s like, “NO! I am not grumpy; I just don’t have the energy to be super friends with you”. You’re not a bad person, I just choose not to be friends, that’s all. Is it just me or do you feel like, with age, your friendship standards have changed? I feel as I am getting older and more aware of who I am and what I want in life, that my friendships and my priorities in life have changed. Not necessarily in a bad way, but they just did.

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Growing up, I always had the biggest number of friends in our household; part of the popular clique at school, know whatam sayin’. I always thought that friendships, especially female friendship, were important as they make or break you. Even though I am super close to my sisters, I felt like I needed exterior female relationships. It makes a difference! I promise. I am lucky to have three really good female friends that know me, have my back and love me for me. They are not afraid to be blunt, to be honest, and to pull me back to planet earth when I am way up high in the milky way. Relationship is mutual and respectful in every sense of the word. Now that I think about it, perhaps that’s the reason why I had such trouble fitting in Palestine…is because all the women I met never wanted to befriend me. It always felt like a competition. Soooo tiring!

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You know, some studies prove that the older you get, the fewer friends you have. I do attest to that theory and agree 100%. Towards the end of my 20s, I realized that I had an unnecessary number of “friends” in my life and that I had way too much going on. Some of those people are barely present, but you still call friends just for the sake of it. I realized that some of them were dragging me down and making me feel shitty about myself in unforgivable ways. I, now, decided to prioritize whom I want to hang out with and whom I want to connect with on a deeper level.

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With age, I realized that it’s not about the number of friends you have but about the quality of those friends. The people that lift you and make you feel special, that’s who you want as friends. Now, more so than ever, as my priorities change (with being a mom and a wife), I still do make time for friends, but for those who mean something to me. And that, ladies and gentlemen, is what adult friendships are all about. There a huge difference between family bonds and friendship bonds. With friendship bonds, you have the upper hand to decided who to keep in your circle and that’s why friendships are unique because you get to choose them. When you choose who you click with, the bond is stronger. That’s how it is with my current friends; with age, friendships improve and as priorities change, your friendships change. Childhood friendships and adulthood friendships evolve with age because I feel like they become more complex and meaningful. Come to think of it, I don’t talk to anyone from my childhood, although we keep in touch through social media, the friendships I harvested are those from university. Those girls stuck with me through it all and they are just like sisters. Even though we go months without seeing each other, once we meet, it’s like we never left that last meetup. That’s the privilege I like!

With age, friendships change, and I truly find that they improve. Connections get real! Friendships truly do help with loneliness and they improve your mental health. When you are down, you’re easily lifted. You have to surround yourself with likeminded people and when you feel your absolute worst, that’s when friendships are tested. Friends, as we get older, should help boost your self-confidence when in doubt and improve your wellbeing. Friendship is a relationship with no strings attached except the ones you choose to tie, one that’s just about being there, as best as you can. Ture and deep friendships, ultimately, can be therapeutic for the heart and soul. Quality time spent with wonderful eggs helps you create amazing and longlasting memories. So make time for those that matter to you and don’t be shy to put an end to relationships that suck the energy out of you. We live once, so it’s best to live it healthily.

 

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Health Inspiration

Top 8 Tips on self-care

As I have spent the last few weeks running around like a headless chicken prepping for the arrival of the baby, I forgot to take the time to take care of little old me. I know that I won’t get much time to do so after baby come for a few months until I am all settled. So I figured will take the time now for myself and enjoy it while it lasts. Spending time with my husband (who’s here for baby’s birth) is giving me the nudge to put it all aside and focus on us but mostly me. There is nothing wrong with a little selfish time to take care of your own needs, besides if you’re happy, then everyone else around you will be happy. You will radiate positive energy and that is always inspiring.

Here are my top tips on self-care and how you get to enjoy yourself and be all relaxed.

1) SKIN CARE

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That is like my holy grail of self-care. I am not going to lie; I am a huge sucker when it comes to skincare. I like to splurge because I feel like if I am good in my own skin, then I am more confident and I feel like I can conquer the world. Good skin gives me the push to put myself out there. I know I struggled in that department quite a bit when I was younger, but I learned that when working with good products (pricey or not), you will achieve your goal to perfect skin. I am super indulgent when it comes to masks and I like to do it whenever I have time. Back when I was single, it was a daily ritual for me…but since getting married, I have slacked a bit, perhaps because I have less free time on my hands. However, I vowed to get back to it, because it makes me happy! So ladies, mask away! Trust me, you’ll feel better!

2) WATER

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This is pretty obvious but I tend to forget to hydrate and it just makes me feel sluggish, lethargic and causes me to have headaches. Well, headaches no more because I am getting back on track. I find it quite hard sometimes to replenish on the H2O but it is the essence of our existence. I sometimes go a full day not even drinking 1 cup of water and I realize it is bad for me…but I just don’t think of it. However, now, I have a refillable water bottle with me and I spend most of my day with it in my hands so that I remember to drink up and stay hydrated. It not only helps me with headache, but it also helps me with my skin. It’s much more hydrated and smooth; I don’t feel like a lizard anymore. Staying hydrated helps your body detox hence giving you more energy to be out and about doing your thing!

3) EXERCISE

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I have always been an active girl…since I was little and I am not about to let it go. However, since hitting the third trimester, feeling heavy and tired weren’t helping me in that department. The least I would do these days is take a walk and trying to get to 10 000 steps as a goal. Most day, not gonna lie, I don’t get to my goal, but at least I know I tried. I always loved to exercise as a means to detox my brain from bad thoughts and bad energy—yes it was also for my body, but mostly for my mental health. I was always a pretty angry child and stress was eating me up, so the only way I found to let that all go was through working out. I did everything anyone could possibly do, like zumba, pilates, yoga, dance, you name it!!! As long as I move, I am happy and I cannot wait to get back into working out, because I always feel much healthier and much happier. Work out ladies! Work out for your mental health!!!

4) READ

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When I was little, I remember eating up books for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I loved loved loved reading! It was our things as a family when we were little…going to the library every weekend was a ritual and we all loved it so much. As the years went by, I slowly started losing that habit and it makes me quite sad that I let it go. Reading feeds your soul! It transports you to worlds undiscovered and it helps your imagination flow and your brain to be in working gear rather than being lazy. Taking the time to read before bed helps you relax and forget about the burdens you may carry. Taking the time to read a book daily is a challenge but a good one because you know you’re doing yourself some good. I am slowly getting back into it and I am enjoying it so far.

5) DO WHAT YOU LOVE

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I have always been an advocate about pushing people into doing what they love because I know what it feels like. That pure beautiful raw rush that you get when you do something you love is irreplaceable. We live only once and taking the time to do something you love, whatever it may be is fulfilling and satisfying. Living your dreams is not impossible, we just need to let go of our fears and our limitations. Impossible is nothing! I try as much as possible to have a little list of things I wish to do and cross it off slowly and man is it amazing to know that you can! Even if it seems silly to others, do it anyway. Like blogging, or vlogging or riding a bike even, whatever it may be, do it for you and only you and never listen to what others have to say. It is easy for others to judge you…or humans judging each other in general, but fuck it and live the moment and live your dreams because you never know when your time will come. Even though I am going to be a mom very soon, I will still have that list close to my heart and accomplish whatever I can because I know that the happier I am, the happier my little family will be.

6) MEDITATE

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Very much like exercising for many, meditating is food for your soul. For me, it is what gives me the power and the energy to keep the show going. Taking 30 minutes daily for yourself to pray, meditate or simply reflect on your life and your purpose should be enough to keep you happy. For me it’s praying and I find that when I take the time to pray, I feel less anxious, less stressed and less disoriented. I, like many other women around the world, tend to be very hard on myself and demand a lot more of myself than I can give and that is a sucky attitude to have. We women feel like we need to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders and we want to take care of it all and if we don’t, well we feel like failures. But let me tell you ladies, we do a lot more than men do (not being sexist—its’ just fact), but we still cannot accept it and still want to do more. This is why mediation is important because you take the time to reflect on your life and take the time to love yourself more, appreciate yourself more and respect yourself more.

7) EAT HEALTHY

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Not saying we can’t indulge and eat that greasy burger or eat those crispy fries, I am saying be balanced. Life is not about forbidding yourself from enjoying the bounties given to you; it’s about knowing when to indulge and when to restrain yourself. However, eating healthy keeps your body in check and keeps you active and happy. Eating healthy keeps you from feeling sluggish and tired and that should be your number one priority. Your body is your temple and taking care of it will keep you positive. Besides, eating healthy doesn’t have to be boring, it can be creative and exciting; you just have to learn a few tricks.

8) SLEEP

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Last but not least, sleep! Sleep people!!!! That is probably one thing I am struggling with lately and will struggle with for a little while longer. The less sleep I get, the more tired I feel, the grumpier I feel, and the less motivated I feel. Despite having less sleep, I still try to stay active…but some days I just want to be a couch potato. I suffered from insomnia for the longest time and was able to run on little to no sleep sometimes but lately I have been wanting to cocoon and sleeeepp. But man, I can’t help but feel guilty whenever I feel the need to nap because I feel like I could be more productive to the universe. However, it is good to sleep and when you feel like taking little naps, do so, because when you are rested, your body and mind are stronger and you have the power to do anything you want to do.

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So there you have it ladies and gentlemen, treat yourselves with love and dignity and don’t be afraid to tell yourselves that you’re doing great; it doesn’t mean you’re a show-off or a self-centred asshole, it just means you acknowledge that you are human and that you need a break. There is no harm in taking the time for yourselves and try to live without judgement and negativity. There’s only one life and you deserve to be happy, everyone deserves that!

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Four highlights for the month of July

Seems like yesterday that the month of July just began and I remember crying helplessly to the hubs that time doesn’t pass as fast as I want it to…but being so busy with life and preparing for the arrival of our little monster, I haven’t noticed how time ran so quickly. We humans always seem to countdown for something and we never actually take the time to enjoy the little treasured moments of today. We always seem to think of the future and it is a mistake I always seem to make. I try now, as much as possible, to not always plan ahead, because then you end up getting punched in the face by reality. I figured, from now on, I will live life spontaneously and enjoy today for today and leave the rest to fix itself into the right place. As I sit down and reflect about these past few weeks I end up smiling to myself as to where I am compared to a year ago and I can’t help but grin like an idiot and be thankful for every little moment. Although it has been a little hard being away from my best friend and my husband, I still am thankful for the rest of the goodness I have had lately. So here are some of the things that kept me content this month….

1) Going eight month into my pregnancy

As much as I am nervous, I am excited to meet our monster. I am terrified to be honest and perhaps I will share my thoughts on that in another post. I decided to go with a birthing house and attempt giving birth un-medicated and see the possible limits of my body. I know millions and millions of women have survived un-medicated birth…but seems almost impossible to me when I think of it. But I guess you never know how strong you are until it’s your only option. Ok, back to the main point, I am finally 34 weeks and there’s not much left till we have a new member added to our little family. As the times passed, as the baby grows and as the kicks become harder, I can’t help but smile to myself. I am super stoked to see what our little baby will look like and what she’ll be like. Being a mother will definitely be a challenge and I can’t imagine I will do an amazing job, but I am up for the challenge. I mean, I am still a child myself, so perhaps this will be more like a friendship rather than motherhood. Who know?!

2) GLOW

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Watching this Netflix series is giving me all kinds of feels. It’s empowering to see what women are capable of and it gives me an extra push to keep going forward in my own life. I know it’s TV and all, but still I find it super inspiring. I have a huge crush on Alison Brie and Betty Gilpin…I mean all the cast is so badass, but these two have me hooked! It’s well balanced, it’s charismatic and it gives you all the girl power you need. I love how, despite the drama, the women in the show stand and support each other; they build each other up rather than breaking each other and this is why it has to be one of my favourite shows I have watched in a while. Fierce, ferocious women, what more can you ask for?! It’s all the boost you need! Plus…the series is set in the 80s…so the terrible fashion and the workout tights and gear is all there, a touch of vintage is always a plus for me!

3) Sunshine/Nature

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Since I have landed, it has been a constant high of good weather and sunshine…there were a few days where it rained, but it was mostly sun. I don’t mind the rain, in fact I am a pluviophile, but the sun has given me extra love and extra energy even though there were days where I felt pretty shitty. I try to walk around on a daily basis for at least an hour and honestly, not to sound too cheesy, but nature is healing me slowly back to where I want to be. My soul has been feeding off the sound of the birds and the green of the trees and today, I can say that I am feeling much better than I used to a few weeks ago. If you let nature guide you, you will eventually be comfortable and be happy again. We have a little path going through a small preserved forest in the back of our place and I try to walk there as much as possible or spend time in forests as much as possible. Some days, I feel like I just want to lie on the grass like a little star fish on the sand and just stay there for hours without being disturbed (it’s a little too sunny unfortunately). Spending time outdoors has lifted most of the stress I have been feeling lately and it has taught me to take each day as it comes and keep my faith in God strong; what it meant for you will eventually come to you. Besides, being physically active and out there in the world helps you to mentally stay alert and happy…more oxygen in the brain!

4) Family

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This probably one of the biggest thing that has pushed me back to being happier. I spent most of my time last year being alone and probably disconnected for the world outside of my own home…and no one is to blame but me I guess. However, being back here between my family, it has almost brought me back to life. My family is super tightknit and so we only have each other and despite our little anger fits, we try to stick with each other as much as possible and lift each other up. As every dysfunctional family out there (we all are in our own way!), we push each other to be out there and dream but we still stay grounded. I have to stay that my sisters are definitely one of the reasons why I am grounded despite being a big dreamer…they have smacked (figuratively speaking) me time and time again back to reality and for that I am eternally grateful. Spending a lot of time with them lately, I am much more comfortable and happier, they help me set up for the baby and make me feel at ease with the whole process and they never sugar-coat anything, which is exactly what I need.

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Beauty Inspiration

Four things that cheered me up this month

Since I was feeling down since the beginning of the New Year and felt a bit out of the loop on living life cheerfully and lightly. I am usually a pretty cheerful and positive person but being physically sick ain’t that exciting and I feel like it affects my mental state very much. Since feeling much better physically, I have been on a journey of self-care and I make sure to stay jolly. Every month that passes, I focus on finding little things to keep my spirits high and my mood chappy. Here’s a little list of those things.

Praying (also meditating)

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Being a Muslim, I mean it is required for us to pray 5 times a week…but since moving to Jericho, I have become a little bit more negative than my usual self and i don’t like that side of me because that never was me! I am always the girl that lives in a “delusional” world, where everything is perfect no matter what happens and that when you fall, you can easily get up and move forward. Anyway, to break this ugly and disastrous self-sabotage cycle of loathing, I have turned to mediating and praying. I would do yoga whenever I can but praying has also helped me find inner peace. This isn’t to really push anything down anyone’s throat but I do feel more Zen nowadays. I never took to praying so deeply until passing through some hardship and now I know that it is there for a reason; it keeps us light-hearted and relaxed. I would describe it as doing yoga, really, it’s a 5 minute process that I do 5 times a day and it helps me re-energize and re-center. You sort of disconnected for your troubles and worries and just work on rebuilding your trust in God, in life and in the good things that come your ways.

Florence Welch (& the Machine)

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I have fallen back in love with her music. There’s so much to listen to these days, but I stumbled onto the Dog Days and just remembered how good it was. I listen to other music obviously, but this month I have had Florence and the Machine on repeat and it has been giving me life! I like to blast the music high when hubs isn’t home to dance around a little bit while making dinner. Music can easily and quickly lighten my mood. I don’t usually go for a favourite band (except maybe for Coldplay), but I like to listen to meaningful lyrics and that goes for any genre of music. This month in particular, music has been a good way to keep me active too. So it’s always a win with music.

RuPaul’s Drag Race

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It was a while since I even opened the TV, even if I am home alone, I rarely open it. I don’t feel motivated to sit there and watch it all by myself. I get a little more excited watching with someone else…but going on to Netflix recently, I was curious as to what I could watch…something not too dark and not too serious. I stumbled onto RuPaul’s drag race and that’s where the love started. I binge watched by way up to season 7. It’s so freaking amazing! I am totes in love with this show. The first episode of each season is always my favourite because then you get to see the transformations of each contestant and their reactions to each other. I love how talented some of these queens are; I mean I wish I could do my eye shadow half as decent as they do. I also love how some of them are so talented in sewing and just make beautiful costumes out of nothing. So inspiring! Their will to succeed is touching and exciting to see.

Skincare/Makeup

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Although I don’t usually go ham with it but I love playing with it nowadays. I have mentioned it in my previous post, but skincare/makeup have been keeping me quite content these days. I now find the time to really cleanse my skin and exxfolitate properly and even get some masks done. A little R&R never hurts! Also, there’s something just so satisfying about adding a pop of color on a bland canvas (my face at the moment); seeing the little changes that happen is awesome. Sometimes, I take the time to put some makeup even if I’m at home, just for fun. Because why the hell not?!

 

 

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Style Vintage

Figuring out life…and a little OOTD

Moving to Jericho wasn’t exactly one of my greatest hits as I still trying to sort things out. And whilst being on this never ending new self-discovery journey, I have hit a few low moments and this week wasn’t the best one. It is absolutely a culture shock for me…funny you say? Well, I know that I am Arabic and all and my roots are forever Middle Eastern but I was raised in Canada and it’s totes not the same mind set. Don’t get me wrong, I mean this is a wonderful place but I feel like is so not as fast paced as I would like it to be. I mean I know I just have to sit down with myself and figure out exactly what it is  I truly want. It was always clear to me in Montreal…being a business owner was my calling and even though it still is….I just need to re-work my grounds and figure out how to being. Fashion has always been my true home. The colors, the texture, the beautiful and endless lines and structures and just everything about it keeps me alive inside. I know that this is where I need to be…fixing garments, curating vintage and styling outfits..now that is my calling! There are still a few gapped spaces that I need to fill out as it comes to fashion here in Palestine. Some things are not as “fashionable” as I “thought” they were. I mean, I will never follow rules, ever! Because that’s just who I am…but it turns out apparently that if you go to a public and social outing, you’re not to repeat the outfit you wore there any where else….because people already saw you in it. I am one who recycle outfits quite a lot…especially if I truly love the pieces I have. And I love pretty much everything I own. Oh and apparently, vintage isn’t a thing either…..who knew?!

Anyway…I know I am super ramble-y but I just needed to vent out a bit and writing does help me set things into perspective and help me see the bigger picture. I always had a diary that I wore in religiously…up until my sister found it and put her nose in it…le boo! As I was stuck in a big funk, I wasn’t super inspired to dress up in anyway or blog either. Today, I woke up and found my strength again. I find the human mind so fascinating and even though the will and power does come from us, sometimes I can’t help but feel so hopeless and helpless. So today, instead of sitting here and whining and feeling sorry for myself…I decided to get dressed so casually and go out for a little chill time with the sissy in law and her kids. She’s always so positive and I love her for keeping me that way too.

Along with my little chit chatty ramble…I wanted to share with you my little outfit..as it was super perfect for a hot hot 40 degree summer day…without further ado, here it is:

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WHAT I WORE:
SHIRT: Thrifted ◊ SKIRT: Stradivarius ◊ SUNNIES: Aldo ◊ SHOES: Charles & Keith

This skirt is super light and airy and feels so comfy on a hot day and shoes too!! I mean did you see the the holes in the shoes. Look how happy I look;

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All in all I would say this was a pretty chill and relaxing day. A happy one and hopefully this is the start to a new high where I find myself again and enjoy life’s precious moments.

So my dear internet friends, if you are in a funk or hitting rock bottom, fear not as you are not lone. We all have those moments and take your time to feel every feeling that come through you…but the most important thing that you must keep in mind is to keep going and to keep fighting for yourself and for your dreams. It is not about the fame or the money to the final destination, it is about those little moments and those little challenges you pick up along the way of your journey. Savor them and enjoy them as they are but faint memories that only you can remember.