18 Mar Women: so critical and hard on ourselves!
Why are we so wired to put ourselves down even though we are doing great jobs at life? Many of us women tend to put ourselves down and drag ourselves into low levels of confidence and with the amount of criticism we give ourselves (and sometimes each other) we end up going into downhill spiral of never-ending negativity. But why? I mean adulting is hard as it is, then why do we add more pressure to our plates? Like can we give ourselves a break? I met with my osteopath last week and I couldn’t help but think about the things she said to me. We are pressured to be a certain way and that mold that we all need to fit in, who created it? I feel like many of us women, not matter how much we put out, we still think were not good enough. I am just wondering, according to how though? Because no one is out there pushing us to be a certain way, yes society plays a big role into shaping us humans but who cares about it, really! I mean who cares how perfect you are, as long as you are yourself, because let’s face it, no one out there is ever perfect. I met this woman who I see daily, and she is constantly so hard on herself and she looks miserable!!!! Its is insane how sad she looks and sometimes all I want to do is reach out and hug her and tell her that she’s good the way she is. However, I can’t lie because most of the time, I am that way with myself. When is it that we gotta give ourselves a break and a pat on the back to see, YO, YOU’RE DOING WELL!!!! Do men suffer from the same feelings of remorse and self-judgment as much as us, or are we just living inside our own feelings and emotions that we keep missing our successes? I am sure that there are men out there who are as hard as we are on themselves, but I feel like they have to capacity to appreciate life’s little success a lot more than we do.
WHAT I AM WEARING
SHIRT: Handmade • SKIRT: Vintage • BOOTS: Nine West • BAG: Core Life • BELT: Vintage
I know that women tend to be heroes, we tend to want to do it all and do it all perfectly at that. Just sucks that are missing out on a lot because we cannot stop that little voice inside our head and can’t get past our own expectations. I feel like I have come to an age where I no longer want to be perfect, I just want to be me and need to be at peace with who I am and what I can offer and share the best parts of myself with the people I care about. I no longer feel like I need to push myself to my extreme limits and to make myself mentally and physically sick because I want to be number one. The worst part is that most of us are constantly in competition with ourselves…it’s like the worst kind of competition, because you are always in your own thoughts and in your own head—it’s sickening.
I think what is most important for us women to know is that there is place for all of us in the world, because we are all different and we are all unique in our own way. We all have a gift to share with the world. We simply need to be true to ourselves, be kind to ourselves because when you treat yourself kindly and respect your uniqueness, that’s when you give the world an amazing gift. YOU! What you give it is what you will receive and perhaps if we give ourselves a break and say we’re prefect the way we are, then I am sure that everything will fall perfectly in place. Just like tessellation! I guess, that would be a step closer to happiness from within and a step forward to eliminating negativity, anxiety, anger and all sorts of bad feelings. I think we tend to do more damage to ourselves without even noticing because judging ourselves is a lot more hurtful. if hits is in a different way and on a deeper level.
So, today, ladies, I give you permission and allow you to fully appreciate who you are and to be kind to yourself! Happy Monday x