As you all know, I have a deep fascination with sweaters and so expanding my collection is crucial and since my sister knows I have an incurable obsession…she bought me this wonderful sweater dress from H&M in bubble-gum pink and immediately I though ouuuu Mean Girls! I have done pink on pink multiple times when i was in high school, it was almost a uniform of mine back in the day…but for some reason, I left that stage and never looked back and although I still do love pink, I rarely wear it these days. Since coming back to Canada in June, I feel like pink has made a huge comeback in stores and it’s like basically everywhere and so I couldn’t help but fall back in love with it. To pay tribute to the good all days, I decided to do a monochrome all pink outfit, because why not!
I was debating over and over whether I wanted to wear heels or sneakers but I made an effort and went for the heels instead. Seems like, for the last bit of pregnancy and a little bit now, wearing sneakers and flats is almost the right thing to do, even though heels is my biggest weakness. Hopefully, I’ll get back into the swing of things. And since the outfit was a little flat, I added more colour to it by putting touches of blue and gold and these Aldo heels were the perfect fit.
WHAT I WORE
SWEATER DRESS: H&M • JEANS: Calvin Klein • BAG: Aldo • SUNNIES: Aldo • EARRINGS: Vintage • BELT: Zara • SHOES: Aldo
I think those are pretty much basics and see myself hanging on to them for years to come. It is important to shop smarter and I feel like over the years and with experience, I have learned to shop less but invest in pieces I truly love and know will wear. Besides, pink is always a good color to have in your wardrobe to lighten up your days and your mood!
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As you can tell by the title of this blog, I decided to give birth to baby Sofia in a birthing house and not a hospital. I was pondering over this for a couple of months and obviously like many other women like me, I didn’t know that a birthing house was even an option because no one ever talks about it (which sucks ass by the way). I, first of all, am a huge “nosocomephobe” and I absolutely dread hospitals…y’all have no idea. So finding out that birthing houses and midwives still do exist got me super excited. There aren’t many here in Quebec and not many people about them…they’re pretty much still considered not fit to do the job but let me tell you that I am a true believer that midwives are angels.
I initially wanted to give birth in a pool because I heard that it was less painful and your chances or tearing were minimal and so since I was in Jericho half way through my pregnancy, i sent out my dear sissy on a mission to finding a birthing pool place for me and like the hero she always is, she was able to get me on a waiting list to the Pointe Claire birthing house…and a few weeks later I got the call and I was in! I was so relieved and I couldn’t believe that I was going that route, but in my mind it was still a better option that the hospital. So as soon as I got to Montreal, I went to meet my midwife and my journey started there. She was knowledgeable and very assertive and knew what she was doing and pretty much slapped my fears out of me. She assured me that giving birth naturally is a good way to go and that many women before me have done it and that there is no fear in the process. Theses midwives are trained and have basic (a little more than basic) knowledge of medicine and so if there’s an emergency they can act quickly while waiting on an actual doctor to arrive. Although I went in later during my pregnancy to the birthing house, they made sure to keep me up to date on classes and natal care. They were always available on call for me whenever I had doubts, fears or questions.
I was lucky enough that my whole birth experience took five hours in total but my midwife was with me every minute and gave me strength when I became weak and pushed me to keep going when I almost gave up. Giving birth is not easy by any means and having done it, un-medicated at that, is a huge accomplishment in my books and I feel like from here on out, I am a superhero and nothing can stop me! I am not saying that going to a hospital is bad or giving birth through a c-section is any less heroic, all I am saying is, this experience gave me the strength I needed to say: yes, I can now conquer the world!
Honestly, it may seem so “retarded” to talk about midwives and birthing homes because we have hospitals and all the technology we need, but truly they are game changing in the labour/delivery process and sometimes, less is more. My experience proves that they still have space and room to practice their jobs safely without complications. Every experience and journey is different…but I am confident when I say (if you’re planning to give birth) that having birthing houses as an option in your pregnancy is excellent and you should look into it more.
It’s sweater season again and I couldn’t be more thrilled. I love fall and my favourite season…if it could be one season all year, I would forever choose fall. The colors of the changing leaves give me hope for new beginnings and I totes need that now after giving birth and not having time to even shower properly. I have had the chance to walk around the mall a few times with the little bug and I noticed how big of a place sweaters are taking in stores, even more so than before. Sweaters are my obsession and I love fall and winter purely for that because you can look good while being snuggly and warm. There are the ugly acrylic sweaters that loose shape right away and the wool ones that itch so much…I think trying to find the perfect sweater is an art and collecting them is an even bigger art. I have collected a few sweaters throughout the years; some new, some vintage, some thrifted…but overall my collection is one I am proud of.
This sweater caught my eye immediately because the color is glorious! I never wore something completely orange as this sweater and what I love about it is that it’s oversized which means more room for snuggle-iness. I think orange might be my new favorite color, move over burgundy, you’ve got a strong contender! So, I decided to pair this sweater with a vintage skirt I bought a few months ago when I was hugely pregnant but couldn’t wear it, so now is the appropriate moment to take it out into the light. I find that midi skirts are super flattering especially that I am on the petite’s side. I don’t have to worry about it being too long or too short; it’s just the perfect length. Since being a new mum, there’s rarely an opportunity right now to wear heels (unless I go on a date-but le hubs isn’t here), which means I am now stuck on flats for the next while and so my trustee Converse trainers are my go-to at the moment. They’re white and so they can easily be worn with any outfit and besides I love them so much, I think I might invest in another pair; perhaps black or maybe a crazy colourful one.
This outfit is the epitome of fall for me and even thought the colors are bright, they are still muted in a way (not that you can’t wear bright colors in fall or winter…you can do whatever you want really!). I am seriously in love with this skirt, if I could wear it as my daily uniform I would, but that would just be sad.
WHAT I AM WEARING
JACKET: Danier Leather ∞ SWEATER: H&M ∞ SKIRT: Vintage ∞ SHOES: Converse ∞ BAG: Karl Lagerfeld ∞ SUNNIES: Aldo
I am glad to have a little more time to wear proper clothes now other than sweats and hoodies. Smelling of milk has got me feeling blue and so I needed to refresh and get out of the little rut I was in. This is perhaps the start of new colourful fashion adventures and I am so happy that I get to share them with you…
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It has been a hot minute since I have written a post as I have been so busy with baby and honestly I am only starting to get the hangs of things…7 weeks in. It feels so weird not to carry so much weight around and even so much weirder (in a good way) to wake up to a baby next to you. I am not going to lie, it was hard on me being a mom at first, I felt so freaking overwhelmed and cried all the freaking time and I couldn’t explain why. Yes, hormones take time to settle back to the way they used or be or at lease close to that. However, my anxiousness was getting worst and I simply couldn’t brush it off. My daughter was next to me all the time and I still felt anxious about everything. Is she cold is she warm? Is she comfortable? Am I doing the right thing? Am I doing enough? Am I doing too much? All these questions kept me from relaxing just a tiny bit. Being able to take care of another life is a blessing and a burden at the same time. Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom (more than I thought I would), but the guilt is real and it only gets worst, even if what you are doing is good. I think it is embedded in us moms to always be alert and give without boundaries and it is our responsibility to set some boundaries early on so that we do not forget to take care of ourselves. I may have let myself go for the past 7 weeks, but as I am getting more comfortable taking care of little Sofia, I am also more comfortable leaving her with someone else even though I have separation anxiety. It is important to understand that you are not alone in motherhood and that there is always someone feeling the same as you or someone that can help you see clearly. I was very adamant asking for help because I thought that it would make me look weak and that I couldn’t handle being a mom, but in fact you just end up burning out and being frustrated and that is neither good for you or the baby.
Having other moms around me telling me how to handle certain situations made me go nuts because I was always worried that I wasn’t doing a good job. At the end of the day, each mother is different and each baby is different and I think it is important to know what makes you and your baby happy. Forget others! Do you! So here I am, 7 weeks later, feeling much more comfortable with the whole idea of motherhood and learning to appreciate every passing moment, because, MAN, does time fly! It surely isn’t easy and babies are demanding and they’re a lot of work, but those little giggles and coos and smiles make things a little better. Those little warm cuddles make all the bad and ugly much more beautiful. I never thought in a million years that I would be a mom and a good one at that. I always thought that I would have 6 cats and that would be my legacy.
So, to all the mums out there, please stop feeling guilty, because it’s such a stupid feeling and you are totes wasting your time! We all make mistakes and no one is perfect and as long as your children are healthy and happy then you are 100% doing great. Give yourselves credit and share the load whenever you feel like it’s getting heavy, there’s no shame in that! And if you are feeling anxious, don’t ever forget it…you’re not alone!
I don’t know how things will go from now on but all I know is to take it day by day and enjoy the little triumphs and the little moments, because those fly and never come back. But most importantly, don’t forget to take care of yourselves too, because you do matter!