The print jacket edit!

The heat doesn’t seem to be going away any time soon and so the fewer layers I wear, the better! I opted for a minimal look today, nothing to crazy but still quite girly, fun and feminine. The shirt I am wearing is yet another Zara purchase and it was perfect to wear on this hot day because despite the volume, it is still very light and airy. As I am approaching my due date, I am feeling slightly nervous and incapacitated but I try to keep it positive and clothes help me feel just that. I tend to overthink sometimes and stress for no reason and being a mum is going to be super new for me and I don’t know what to expect. But here I am, ready for a challenge and putting aside my fears, I wanted to share another outfit with you and also document it because I was happy with it.

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I was eyeing this top for a while and I wanted to get the whole co-ord set but they no longer had the pants available which sucks!! But the shirt will do! I like how deep the colors are and that you can easily transition this piece from summer to winter without issues. The floral print is there but not too in your face which makes it subtle but feminine in the best way possible. I love the tie around the waist so you can choose to wear it as a jacket, open, or you can simply cinch it up to your own liking.

WHAT I WORE

SHIRT: Zara ♠ PANTS: Maternity (thrifted) ♠ SHOES: Expressions (The Bay) ♠ BAG: Ugg (thrifted) ♠ SUNNIES: Unbranded (Local shop in Jericho)

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I honestly don’t know how celebs do it, looking all glam all the time with their heels at 9 months into their pregnancies. I like barely manage to walk in them sometimes not being pregnant…haha! So it is quite the challenge to do so with a big belly. Luckily my heels aren’t too uncomfortable so walking is the easy part, it’s the putting them on and off that’s tiring. So I paired it off with my engagement velvet burgundy shoes for a pop of color and it added just a touch of pizzazz.

I will find it so weird when I start my fashion blog post-baby…I kindda gotten used to the big belly and it will feel weird without it for a while I think. Anyway I am enjoying all the fashion at the moment because who knows when I’ll have time after baby comes.


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Weirdest questions I’ve been asked as a hijabi

Are you not hot with this they say…Are you not dying with this they say…Are you trying to threaten us with this they say…Are you trying to take over our world they say…well no peeps! I promise! This thing I have on my head is called a headscarf, a hijab, a veil, not a towel, not a rug and certainly not a THIS! I am usually very very tolerant when it comes to ignorant comments coming my way about being a visible minority and about being a Muslim girl. I am okay with it, it used to bother me when I was younger but since I don’t feel like I owe anyone anything, I don’t feel bad anymore…because I too am a Canadian and I too work hard and pay my taxes. I am as vital of a citizen as everyone else. Anyway, I now take it light-heartedly because we are not all at the same level of education when it comes to cultures and diversity. There are misconceptions about the West in the Occident as much as the West has about the Occident, it really is a matter of self-education and awareness and about the time you decide to take to learn about other cultures and religions. And please bear in mind that there is a huge difference between religion and culture. It shouldn’t be an obligation but rather an inquisitive quest. Perhaps because I am bi-cultural, but I have always had the munchies to learn about other people…it’s just in me and I can’t help it. In today’s post, I wanted to share some of the weirdest questions I have been asked lately about my veil and please take it with a grain of salt because I do and I find it so funny sometimes what people have to say about this whole subject.

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1) Do you have hair?!

This one is probably the funniest….is when they ask if I have hair, can’t help but laugh. Like yes, I have hair. If you educated yourself a little, you would know that the reason why I wear the hijab in the first place is to cover my hair. I won’t blame the ignorance as much in this particular matter because I can understand how it may be confusing to some when they see the different ways different Muslim women choose to wear their headscarf. Some wear a hat, some wear a turban and some decided to full on burqa. I think it is important to understand the meaning of the word hijab; basically in Arabic, it means “barrier” and its purpose is to basically help women cover up and be modest around men they can potentially marry. It is to put the emphasis on the brain of the woman rather than her body. And yes, there is modesty for Muslim men too; they too have to follow some rules…it’s not just the woman, trust me, we’re not oppressed, on the contrary, we’re glorified in Islam. It’s just unfortunately some idiots mix up culture and religion together and then extremism is born. So, yes, I do have hair, I promise I am not bald!

2) Did your parents force you?!

No…they didn’t. I just woke up one day, went to school and wore it. I knew that eventually I would end up wearing it…so I figured; high school is the perfect time to stir some shit up and start gossip. It was actually quite fun at first, I was called a princess by many of my teachers because of the way I started to wear the veil. I remember having a small little lace piece peeking through under the hijab and it looked like I was a Victorian princess and it pissed a lot of kids off…I was bullied because I was the “teachers’ pet” (not something I wanted in the first place). So, just to clarify, perhaps some parents do force their kids out of fear of losing them completely to the way of the devil but my parents didn’t. If you do follow Islam in its true pure form, you would know that it does not oblige anything onto anyone, because Islam is about peace and tolerance and you should be convinced on your own when following a certain rule. Islam is not a difficult religion and there is no compulsion, meaning, “Do not force anyone to become Muslim, for Islam is plain and clear, and its proofs and evidence are plain and clear. Therefore, there is no need to force anyone to embrace Islam. Rather, whoever God directs to Islam, opens his heart for it and enlightens his mind, will embrace Islam with certainty”.

3) Are you oppressed?

Like why is it that because I am wearing a headscarf, I am automatically put into this category. No, like have you seen me?! I mean woman can be oppressed in any religion, any culture, any country, and any race in the whole wide world. I am free to work and live and laugh and dance (not in public…for modesty reasons) and just be who I want to be as long as I respect myself, my family and most importantly my faith and religion. I was not forced into marriage either, trust me, my parents struggled with me so much until I found le husband. I wanted to build my empire before I settled because that’s what made me truly happy. Again there’s a thin line between religion and culture and many Middle Eastern men suffer in that department and perhaps this is where extremism is born…but there’s that in every corner of the world….it’s not an Arab thing! Besides, in any aspect of life (not only religion), when there is balance, there is healthy peace and that goes into everything.

4) Do you take a shower?

Um, like no! I don’t take a shower because then I’ll go to hell (sarcasm highlighted massively here). Of course I can!! What in the hell? Again, this goes back to the first question, we don’t wear it 24/7. We only wear the hijab in the presence of men that could potentially wed us…meaning your father, uncle, brother are not included in the list. So, the minute you get home, you are in fact free to take it off and yes that means you’re allowed to shower and do other human activities such as yoga, dance, trampoline and even bungee jumping. The hijab doesn’t make us any different than any other woman on the planet, we just have it on for extra modesty reasons and we only wear it if we’re convinced to do so!

5) Can you wear a wig?

No, then what’s the point of wearing the hijab in the first place if you’re going to top it off with a wig? Then just don’t wear it at all. You don’t wear it to please others but rather for yourself and religion is about your relationship with God, it has nothing to do with anything else. You have to maintain modesty when you’re 100% convinced about it or else it doesn’t count. I have seen many girls do it to get their parents of their backs and that sucks because that isn’t how it should be. I remember when I decided to wear it, I struggled a little bit to explain why I chose to wear it because I was still new and perhaps I didn’t feel secure or settled into my own skin yet, but as I grew older, I couldn’t imagine myself without it. My hijab gave me more strength and more confidence in myself to purse my dreams and to carve a path for myself in a society where it wasn’t fully understood. I wouldn’t change my experience for anything! I honestly don’t feel like I am impaired or pulled back in any way, because so far, my list of accomplished is pretty awesome.

There are many more silly questions that come to mind but it would take me an eternity to go through them all…it’s so funny! Like I said, I take it super lightly now, because it doesn’t bother nor offend me anymore. Life is way too short for me to keep thinking about what others think of me or the likes of me. Having to always be defensive is super exhausting but if someone comes up to me wanting to sincerely know about my religion or culture or habits, I am more than happy to share info. I too sometimes can have those silly questions towards other communities, it’s the way we ask those questions that differentiate a racist from a genuinely interested person. Most of us humans have the ability to read and educate ourselves about others and other cultures of world, so it is either you take the time to do so politely or just keep the discriminatory derogations to yourself so that we can all co-exist in peace and harmony.

 

Third trimester; the highs and lows

I can’t believe I’m at the last stretch of this pregnancy, feels like only yesterday I found out I was pregnant; it’s surreal and super crazy and I can’t believe that we get to meet our little baby soon. Ugh, I am going to take care of a little monster/stranger soon (terms of endearment, promise!). There are so many thoughts going a million miles and hour through my mind lately and it is quite overwhelming but I am sure that once the birth happens and the baby is here, it will all settle down and the pieces of the puzzle will fit right in. I feel quite different from the start of the pregnancy; I was quite sour and bitchy about it…and I almost felt like perhaps it was a burden, but as the months went by and my “bond” grew stronger with the little human inside me, I learned that this baby truly is a blessing and that I was saved from doing stupid shit in the future. I am not quite sure if I am ready to be a mom yet, but I know that I will do my best to be a good and supportive mother; I am bound to make mistakes and learn new things along the way, by I am ready for what’s to come…or at least I think I am. I figured that I would take it day by day and just roll with it. As long as I have my partner in crime with me (aka le husband), then I should be fine. The third trimester quickly crept on me and although it is mostly good so far, there a little few ouches here and there. In today’s post I am sharing with you a little update of this journey so far.

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Pelvic & Back pains

I don’t really mind them, I get along just fine but these pains do become more intense as you get closer and closer to your due date. Baby becomes heavy and muscles start to loosen up and some this creates more pressure on the body…I usually manage this pain by either living through it and not thinking about it or simply by stretching and usually that helps me. If I feel the need to do a bubble/Epsom salt bath, then I do so, but it is honestly super rare because like I said, my tolerance to pain is quite high and this to me feels like a regular Tuesday. So fret not ladies, you can do this!!! The pain will eventually fade and not focusing on it makes it much more tolerable.

Braxton Hicks

I have spoken about feeling the contractions lightly in the second trimester update but ohhhh they get much more intense are you get closer and closer to you due date… I am now at 35 weeks and I sometimes feel like I might have the baby soon! Haha! Not but for real, they are a little uncomfortable but nothing too drastic. I try to relax and let them pass and voila, life is set, I go back to doing what I am usually doing.

Dry skin

This one is probably the worst for me, I already hate the feeling of being dry and it seems like my belly is getting worst and worst and itchier and itchier; I despise this feeling and so I lather on cream almost 4 times a day now. I don’t use a specific pregnancy cream, because I figured any cream works…and long as it is hydrating and not filled with yucky chemicals. I am sticking to coconut milk infused cream at the moment and it is keeping me quite content and itch-free.

Heartburn

I am still undecided whether the dry skin part or the heartburn bother me the most…I would say they’re probably equal at this point. I mean, okay, maybe heartburn is the worst…ugh, I try as much as possible to avoid spicy food, but even at that sometimes eating something just a tad it too saucy will give you lava lungs till you take Tums. Holllly!! So unpleasant; pregnancy hormones relax the valve between the stomach and the oesophagus…then acid reflux happens…then heartburn happens.

Cankles & swelling

This part of the pregnancy is quite painful, especially if you’re petit like me, because the weight get real and the load puts a lot of pressure on your ankles and so they hurt non-stop. Sometimes, even when I am sitting my ankles throb and I find it quite difficult to fit in any shoe at the moment and I am trying really really hard not to wear ugly flip-flops! I just can’t so this fashion faux-pas…so i try to stay hydrated, walk a lot but also rest a lot and put my feet up. So far, the pain is manageable but sometimes I need a little massage to feel better. Again, not much left, so I try to bear with.

Like I said, third trimester wasn’t so bad for me; still very bearable and still much better than the first trimester. When I was younger, I was quite conceited and very concerned about my body and I always made sure to be active and healthy. As years went by, I cared less about my body and more about my mental health. However, now, seeing all these changes happening to my body and how I might not be the same as I was before I was pregnant…it honestly doesn’t bother me anymore. I feel like knowing that you are harbouring a little soul inside you makes you realize that nothing else matters as long as the child is healthy and that the changes that happen to your body are actually miracles. It’s so funny how this mental transformation happened in only a few months but I am very proud of becoming the way I am now, because it takes a lot of courage to go through pregnancy and I salute all the women who go bravely thought it time and time again. Hats off to you ladies!

Two piece outfit: the co-ords edit!

Finally! I got myself to wear a co-ord, been wanting to do that for a while and Zara came to the rescue yet again. Well sort of! There’s nothing more satisfying than a matching set and it is easy to feel fabulous in them. The matching sets have been storming the fashion world recently and I love that you can create endless combos with just 2 pieces of clothing and you can either go pattern crazy with our bold prints or go with simple colors; either way you’ll for sure turn heads. What I love about cro-ord sets is that they are more versatile than the tailored office dress, more functional than jumpsuits and less corporate than a trouser suit.

Here’s my issue with Zara lately, I find that their prints are fantastic and the next collection seems bomb but I hate shopping there; it’s so confusing to walk through their stores and search through the endless piles of clothes thrown everywhere; so disturbing how much clothes are produced and how many new styles drop in stores on the daily! But sometimes, I fancy something new and when I do, I go to Zara…but lately, I much prefer to shop there online, it’s much easier. Also, can we all talk about how much their size range sucks!!!! It’s so not inclusive, which sucks, because some of us start to feel self-conscious; like I no longer fit in small at Zara and I know that it’s just a number and it’s not a big deal but honestly, what’s with the fashion industry?

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Anyway, since I am pregnant, I ended up buying the co-ord set in a size large and it fit just right and actually the pants were a little snug…so I was contemplating whether I should keep the whole thing or not. Styling these sets is pretty easy because you just wear the pieces together and voila, you’re all set.

WHAT I WORE

TOP: Zara ♣ PANTS: Zara ♣ SHOES: Charles & Keith ♣ EARRINGS: H&M ♣ SUNNIES: Brigitte Bardot Vintage ♣ PURSE: Vintage

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I would have loved to wear heels with this one, but since I am wobbly, I decided to just pair the outfit with these old oxfords I had in my closet and they were just fitting.

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My sister got this vintage 1940s purse from a garage sale a few weeks ago and it was just the perfect finishing touch to wear with this outfit. I felt so lady-like; I figured why not complete it and be a Kennedy!


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A little bit of Schiaparelli in my step…

I don’t know why but I feel like this shirt I recently purchased from Zara really reminds me of Elsa Schiaparelli’s designs. Something about it just takes me back in time and I feel like she too was big on stripes and the fact that they are asymmetrical is even more synonymous with her work. Elsa was a true fashion pioneer; she created the most gorgeous (in a shocking way) designs with ground-breaking textiles and exaggerated silhouettes. Was made Elsa stand out with her works amongst her peers is that fact that she always regarded couture as art…never as a profession; so she was always free to create whatever she wanted and she never restricted herself to the rules that applied. Her influences came from the Islamic and Arabic world was apparent in her work…due to her father being a scholar and her uncle being an astronomer.

In fashion school, fashion history was my favourite class, so much so that I got a 99 final grade! My teacher always told me that I was meant to be in fashion and that I should forever fight to follow my dreams, she was a great push that I needed when I was told I was too veiled to be in the industry. I guess, although the comments made me cry, I kept going and I am still going, because even though the fashion world is shallow (ultimately), it is still accepting of things that are weird and it is a refuge for many bizarre children like me. When we spoke about Schiaparelli in history class, I was so fascinated by her story that I wanted to learn more and more. Her designs, for her time, were quite controversial as she was told (and believed it herself) that she was ugly. This is how I decided that I wanted to simply follow my guts and designs things I loved and for the collections I put out, I didn’t follow any trend but my heart and perhaps there were mixed reviews, but I wouldn’t change anything because at the end of the day, we only live once!

Back to the outfit! I can get so carried away sometimes, it’s so funny, but I feel like fashion truly is my passion (CHEESSYYY)! So this shirt inspired me today to let in inner Schiaparelli out and dress happy. Here’s how the outfit came out:

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Technically speaking, this is a dress and not a shirt, but I don’t mind wearing it either way and so this time around I wore it a shirt, but I am sure that when the baby belly is gone, cinching it up with a wide belt and adding knee-high boots, this will look bomb! It’s in a size medium and currently it fits just perfect.

Wearing heels is a little challenging to be honest, but a girl’s gotta do what she’s gotta do to get her pictures done! Unfortunately I am super struggling to fit in my current shoes and I am so gutted and I hope that my shoe size doesn’t change and comes back to normal because I am not quite ready to part with my collection. The struggle is real people!!! And the cankles are even more real!!!

WHAT I WORE:

DRESS: Zara ◊ PANTS: H&M Maternity ◊ SHOES: Jessica Simpson ◊ SUNNIES: Kate Spade ◊ BAG: Vintage (unbranded) ◊ EARRINGS: Vintage ◊ NECKLACE: DCK Collection

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This vintage purse belongs to my sister and I stole it because it made sense with this whole look. It’s like ugly but pretty at the same time. I feel like this is a piece you either love or hate…maybe because the shape is odd, or maybe because it’s too beaded; don’t know, but I find it adorable with this whole look.


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A melting pot of colors and patterns

Today, I got inspired by this vintage silk striped shirt that belonged to my dad ages ago; it’s a shirt that I have only probably seen him wear in photos. It’s so unique in color and yes, I know it’s a men’s shirt but ain’t no one stopping me from wearing it…besides, I find men’s clothing sometimes much more appealing than women’s…especially in the accessories and the watches department. The blue and black tones are vibrant despite it being a dark shirt; it seriously inspired me to mix and match it with other colors and textures. Although this shirt was given to my brother in law, I ended up acquiring it and will keep it in my wardrobe for the future and plus it’s lined!!!! Extra points! I can just see how easily you can tuck it in a pencil skirt and look super smart or just loose with jeans and a tee…super badass rocker mom!

Here’s how I decided to style it today:

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I felt like the perfect way to style this shirt is to mix it with an even bolder print and it’s nice to be creative and take risks once in a while. Although the shirt was a little too snug, I liked how it came out together. I fell in love with these pants the minute I saw them on the Zara website; the pants come in a co-ord set with a matching top…which they were out of stock and it sucks because I could totes do them together. The pants are currently on sale for 20$ CAD and so, if you like them, I suggest you get them now because stock is running low!

To pull the outfit as a whole, I added the earrings and the red bag. Orange and blue is just so hype and chic…I love these colors together. I don’t always mix colors this way, but I figured taking a little risk won’t hurt.

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Mixing vintage with newer items from your wardrobe in a modern way is always a good idea; it gives you a chance to explore bigger fashion grounds and expand your creativity. But also, you’ll always stand out from the crowd because vintage is not repetitive-unique and one of a kind pieces.


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Four highlights for the month of July

Seems like yesterday that the month of July just began and I remember crying helplessly to the hubs that time doesn’t pass as fast as I want it to…but being so busy with life and preparing for the arrival of our little monster, I haven’t noticed how time ran so quickly. We humans always seem to countdown for something and we never actually take the time to enjoy the little treasured moments of today. We always seem to think of the future and it is a mistake I always seem to make. I try now, as much as possible, to not always plan ahead, because then you end up getting punched in the face by reality. I figured, from now on, I will live life spontaneously and enjoy today for today and leave the rest to fix itself into the right place. As I sit down and reflect about these past few weeks I end up smiling to myself as to where I am compared to a year ago and I can’t help but grin like an idiot and be thankful for every little moment. Although it has been a little hard being away from my best friend and my husband, I still am thankful for the rest of the goodness I have had lately. So here are some of the things that kept me content this month….

1) Going eight month into my pregnancy

As much as I am nervous, I am excited to meet our monster. I am terrified to be honest and perhaps I will share my thoughts on that in another post. I decided to go with a birthing house and attempt giving birth un-medicated and see the possible limits of my body. I know millions and millions of women have survived un-medicated birth…but seems almost impossible to me when I think of it. But I guess you never know how strong you are until it’s your only option. Ok, back to the main point, I am finally 34 weeks and there’s not much left till we have a new member added to our little family. As the times passed, as the baby grows and as the kicks become harder, I can’t help but smile to myself. I am super stoked to see what our little baby will look like and what she’ll be like. Being a mother will definitely be a challenge and I can’t imagine I will do an amazing job, but I am up for the challenge. I mean, I am still a child myself, so perhaps this will be more like a friendship rather than motherhood. Who know?!

2) GLOW

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Watching this Netflix series is giving me all kinds of feels. It’s empowering to see what women are capable of and it gives me an extra push to keep going forward in my own life. I know it’s TV and all, but still I find it super inspiring. I have a huge crush on Alison Brie and Betty Gilpin…I mean all the cast is so badass, but these two have me hooked! It’s well balanced, it’s charismatic and it gives you all the girl power you need. I love how, despite the drama, the women in the show stand and support each other; they build each other up rather than breaking each other and this is why it has to be one of my favourite shows I have watched in a while. Fierce, ferocious women, what more can you ask for?! It’s all the boost you need! Plus…the series is set in the 80s…so the terrible fashion and the workout tights and gear is all there, a touch of vintage is always a plus for me!

3) Sunshine/Nature

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Since I have landed, it has been a constant high of good weather and sunshine…there were a few days where it rained, but it was mostly sun. I don’t mind the rain, in fact I am a pluviophile, but the sun has given me extra love and extra energy even though there were days where I felt pretty shitty. I try to walk around on a daily basis for at least an hour and honestly, not to sound too cheesy, but nature is healing me slowly back to where I want to be. My soul has been feeding off the sound of the birds and the green of the trees and today, I can say that I am feeling much better than I used to a few weeks ago. If you let nature guide you, you will eventually be comfortable and be happy again. We have a little path going through a small preserved forest in the back of our place and I try to walk there as much as possible or spend time in forests as much as possible. Some days, I feel like I just want to lie on the grass like a little star fish on the sand and just stay there for hours without being disturbed (it’s a little too sunny unfortunately). Spending time outdoors has lifted most of the stress I have been feeling lately and it has taught me to take each day as it comes and keep my faith in God strong; what it meant for you will eventually come to you. Besides, being physically active and out there in the world helps you to mentally stay alert and happy…more oxygen in the brain!

4) Family

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This probably one of the biggest thing that has pushed me back to being happier. I spent most of my time last year being alone and probably disconnected for the world outside of my own home…and no one is to blame but me I guess. However, being back here between my family, it has almost brought me back to life. My family is super tightknit and so we only have each other and despite our little anger fits, we try to stick with each other as much as possible and lift each other up. As every dysfunctional family out there (we all are in our own way!), we push each other to be out there and dream but we still stay grounded. I have to stay that my sisters are definitely one of the reasons why I am grounded despite being a big dreamer…they have smacked (figuratively speaking) me time and time again back to reality and for that I am eternally grateful. Spending a lot of time with them lately, I am much more comfortable and happier, they help me set up for the baby and make me feel at ease with the whole process and they never sugar-coat anything, which is exactly what I need.